Guidance & Counseling Program
S. Christine Brown, MS, LPC
The Madison County School System believes that education affects every aspect of a child's life. The Counseling and Guidance Program at Monrovia Elementary assists each student in attaining his/her maximum potential by providing opportunities for student development.
The mission of the Counseling and Guidance Program of the Madison County Schools is to provide opportunities for all students to acquire competencies in the knowledge of self and others, setting educational goals, and career planning through professional certified School Counselors.
In the Spotlight - motivating your child to do his or her best without pushing them
"over the edge."
Pushed To The Edge - How to Stop the Child Competition Race so Everyone Wins
by Donna G. Corwin
Childhood should be a happy, exciting time filled with exploration and a love of learning for the sake of learning. All parents want what is best for their child, but more and more it seems that each generation sets a standard of "the best" raising the bar a little higher and forcing children to reach for unrealistic goals in some cases. Humans constantly compete for grades, money, power, friends, recognition, and social position. In today's world, we are constantly competing to gain a "one up" position over others. The following ideas and suggestions will hopefully help you avoid the pitfall of pushing your child over the edge, while fostering self-confidence, responsibility, and a sense of autonomy:
-Parents often push too hard to bypass certain stages of development in an effort to gain a competitive edge over others. Children must be allowed to explore their world without parents pushing them beyond their developmental capabilities.
-If you want to successfully build your child's confidence, allow them to have their own dreams. Support your child's choices and feelings.
Ask yourself the following questions:
-Is it more important that my child be highly accomplished or a good person?
-If my child isn't number one, will their life be less meaningful?
-If my child doesn't meet my expectations, do I think less of myself?
-Is my child a reflection of me?
-Do I interfere too much in my child's life?
-Do I constantly reward my child for compliance rather than modeling that the experience is
sometimes its own reward?
-Do I know my child's strengths and weaknesses? Can I accept my child's limitations?
-Am I robbing my child of valuable life skills by averting any chance of failure at all costs?
Am I rescuing my child and creating a false reality for them?
-Am I modeling a sense of entitlement, or am I teaching my child the value of hard work?
-Am I giving my child an abundance of "things" rather than my time and attention?
-Does my child have appropriate role models?
-Do I empower my child to love learning, or reinforce the goal of making the honor roll at all costs?
-Can I allow my child to make mistakes and take responsibility for their actions?
-Am I supportive and goal-oriented, rather than grade-oriented?
-Do I model and encourage good sportsmanship?
-Do I allow my child unlimited access to television and video games?
-Is my child overscheduled to the point of having little time for "idle play?"
Look for parallels between you and your child by asking yourself the following questions:
What are your child's five best qualitites?
What are your five best qualities?
What are the five biggest obstacles that hold your child back?
What are the five biggest obstacles that hold you back?
Tips for Building Social Confidence
-Encourage extracurricular/after-school activit1es that put your child in a fun, enriching,
-Teach your child to communicate effectively.
-Don't fight your child's battles for them.
-Point out positive traits in your child and others.
-Don't emphasize how much money or how many "things" a person has.
-Use positive role modeling in your choice of friends.
A happy, resilient, self-confident, resourceful child is the true measure
of your success as a parent, not how many A's or how
many trophies your child accumulates!
Compiled and Adapted from Pushed to The Edge by Donna Corwin
*Information regarding curriculum can be obtained by visiting the website for the
Alabama State Department of Education.http://www.alsde.edu/html/CoursesOfStudy.aspx
Good Manners will open doors that the best education cannot.
There are two types of education...One should teach us how to make a living, and the other how to live.
It has always seemed strange to me that in our endless discussions about education so little stress is laid on the pleasure of becoming an educated person, the enormous interest it adds to life. To be able to be caught up into the world of thought--that is to be educated.
Providing endless entertainment, satisfying endless consumer addictions-whittle away
at a child's character development in the long run. And what little ethical foundation we manage to provide is devoured by our toxic culture.
--Robert Shaw, MD
There's been lots of talk about the need for parents to become supportively involved in their children's education. As a result, parents are asking, "How should we get involved, and how can we best demonstrate our support of education?"
The best way to get involved, the best way to support the efforts of your children's teachers, is to put first things first. At home, concentrate on building strong foundations for learning and excellence by teaching the "Three R's" of Respect, Responsibility, & Resourcefulness. Teachers can only capitalize on what parents have already accomplished and are continuing to reinforce.
A child's education is a two-handed process. On the one hand are those responsibilities that belong to the child's school. On the other are those responsibilities that belong to the child's parents. Only if the school and the parents join hands effectively will the child be able to accept those responsibilities that belong to him.